Friendship

We each have that person in our lives that for whatever reason people may not understand why you remain close. Out of all the people that I know who have come and gonr there are those who remain. Years pass, you grow up, life changes you and yet coming together is like pcking up where you left off. You wonder why is it so simple with them and yet with others it so difficult to cultivate the type of relationship where you get a sense of fullfillment in what you have together. Far and few in between are the people that you can trust or will always be there to support you. I rather have two to three great friends than to surround my self by hundreds and still feel alone.

If you are wondering what sparked this train of thought it was the last coupple of months. I have a friend who we have known each other for about 11 years. We have suffered the loss of loved ones together and have managed to be involved in our best and worst moments. If you knew our history you would probably be standing in the line with all the others who scratch their head and wonder why. I know that for myself I am asked if I believe that it is lifes way of keeping us around each other enough for us to grow so that later on there might be more. I like to think of it that we have a good friendship. We understand each other and because of who we have become we share something that is amazing. We have a bond that allows us to be the real person. We are never trying to impress each other or keep up appearences. He is the one person that I can break down to and not be worried that he is judging me. I suppose that comes from the fact we do share a history. In some ways our friendship is proof that if you stick at it you can create something beautiful. So many people give up when things get hard. They never invest the time or the patience to ensure that they are both getting something out of the relationship. When I say relationship I dont mean significant others I am talking about the ones between ourseleves and the people in our lives. When you look at the way human beings treat each other it is mostly one person or both trying to change the other. Some people are never satisfied with the person standing in front of them. My take on it is that if you have a person in your life and you accepted them the way they were why change that? Wouldn't it be easier to just let the person go? Why hurt each other by continuing to look at the other persons shortcomings. All you do is create resentment. The other person will no longer wish to want to be around you. Part of friendship is that you learn from each others differences. You become more aware that what brings people together could be any number of things.

For me personally I think we have managed to be close because we never tried to change each other. We accepted that we were similar in some ways but different in a lot of others. We both know the capacity that we have to care for each other. Most of all we value the time we have together because we don't always get to see each other. There is an appreciation that in this day and age our friendship provides something that most people search for and never find.