In the age of self help books I too fell victim to the craze. At 31 I realize that all those books I bought to get over heartbreak, be skinny, and to learn who I was just left me asking myself, "Did I really just spend money on this book.". Life, is something that no book can prepare you for and believe me I bought a book for just about anything you can think of. When I felt lost in the dating world I bought the typical how to meet a guy/ get over a guy book. When I started gaining weight I went out a bought one of those health books with workouts/ recipes and tips on how to be a better you. After reading them I felt worse about myself, and over all just had that hopeless feeling that I wasn't good enough.
It took for my mother of all people to point something out to me. These people that write these books know nothing about the individual. There wasn't a book on this Earth that was going to change the way I felt about myself until I was ready to change the things I disliked about me. The same applies for liking the qualities about myself that others seem to think were boring.
I love to read, it is one of my passions, I can get lost in a good book and forget to eat. A guy I had dated back in 2009 asked me one morning was thins going to be our life together, that I seemed like a boring person because all I wanted to do was read. After that day it was hard not to play those words in my head. I have curly hair, every guy I dated preferred me with straight hair because they felt I was more attractive with straight hair. I am still trying to fix the damage from all the flat ironing. Then there were people who felt my having children made me less fun, I find that I have more fun with my kids and I like them better than most people. This list goes on and I am sure that there are many people out there who have gone through the same. At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that I love the person I am. I love that my hair can get wild and crazy and I am still hoping to find some wonder products that cut the frizz and define my curls. I love books because sometimes you want to read about Elizabeth landing Mr. Darcy in the end.
I am a wear my heart on my sleeve woman. I believe in love and friendship. Food is the most amazing thing on this planet and I would eat my way around the world if I could. I have great kids who teach me everyday to love the person I am because they love me. These are things that a self help book can't teach you. To be honest my mom is the one who helped me through some much (maybe she should write a book). It's okay to be you if you are quirky, silly, crazy, or what ever other adjective you can think of. There are people out there who will understand you, accept you and love you just the way you are.
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