You and this guy start hanging out. You have known each other for a while and there may have been a moment when you had feelings for each other. Flash forward to present day. You have both lived different lives and are on track living the life you wanted for yourself. In the course of the time you came back into contact you guys share a couple of moments being physically close (not having sex). You are not sure where you stand or if this is just him being a guy or if there is something more going on. The logical thing after the first time it happens is to see if it will happen again. You don't want to spark a conversation over something that may have been a fluke. It happens the second time and you stay quiet. You are debating on "should I or shouldn't I). It doesn't help that the other person contributes any information.
So you get tired of waiting and wondering what it is that the other person is thinking. You start to think that maybe you are putting to much thought into anything that happens i.e kissing. You sit back and then it hits you. STOP PUTTING TO MUCH INTO IT!!!! This is a matter better left alone. If you persue it or try to talk about it you are just going to get your feelings hurt. If the person felt any sort of way or even remotely cared enough not to take it any further so not to hurt you he would have said something by now. With so much that is going on in this world I wouldn't waste what time I have persuing someone who is not persuing you. What every reasons you have come up in your head why you stick around think about it does it go both ways. If your answer is I don't know or just plain no, you need to evaluate what you are allowing in your life. Remember it is your life, even if people say "aww why don't you two get back together?" I can guarentee that when they are talking to him they are not saying the same thing.
So many women get caught up by this routine only to find themselves more hurt than what they started. To avoid feeling like an idiot at the end of the day do one of two things. You can A) leave him alone; B) make it clear you are just friends or C) go along for the ride and use the gym to release all the hurt, anger and frustration you are going to feel afterward. Lets face reality a bit that love story we thought we were going to have may not happen. You may meet the man of your dreams buying coffee at starbucks or even at target while buying dinner plates but it won't like a movie. Don't get me wrong it does happen and I am extrememly happy for anyone who has that. Cherish that person and don't take them for granted. Please don't think that I am anti-love because I am not. I am that romantic who just wants her own love story just wish that all the toads would get out the way so I can meet my prince.
My final thought is that if you are that person wondering what the deal just stop thinking about it. If something is going to happen it will happen on its own without you having to try. If you are the other person no matter what your reasons are put yourself in the others shoes. You know what kind of person she is and if you don't want to hurt then do anything that will cause confusion. Yes we get caught up in the moment but when it's two people that have a history together it is key to make sure you aren't heading to a dead end.
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